Quota Schmota: Why Race- and Sex-Based Hiring Guidelines Are NOT the Answer

August 31, 2010

I gotta be honest here. No matter how many times you tell me that affirmative action and quotas in hiring and school admissions are a good idea, I will never agree. “But aren’t you for equality?” Of course I am. “Don’t you want things to be fair?” Well, yeah, duh. But [...]

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Calling Yourself “Bitch” Is NOT Empowerment

August 24, 2010

You can talk to me about reclaiming words until you’re blue in the face and I still don’t buy it. The swastika used to be a good luck symbol and a religious image until Hitler used it to represent the Nazi party. Should I wear clothes with swastikas on them and just assure horrified passersby that I’m reclaiming it? Should I start calling black people “niggas” because I’m reclaiming “nigger”? Yeah, I didn’t think so.

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Parentheses and Terminal Punctuation

April 19, 2010

The last six weeks of my life have been punctuated by awkward phone calls full of bad news, visits to one hospital after another, and sleepless nights on uncomfortable chairs in sterile rooms. Although my family has been historically pretty healthy, we’ve been dropping like flies lately. My current illness, a particularly persistent cold that’s [...]

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The Year I Grew Up and Other Stories

March 19, 2010

I will forever remember 27 as the year I finally grew up — and not just because it was the last year I could legitimately describe myself as being in my “mid-twenties.”
When I was a kid, I looked forward to middle school because those 12- and 13-year-old girls just really seemed to have it together. [...]

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Rant Part 2 of 3: NO – You DON’T Deserve it

September 17, 2009

I’m worried that you may be missing out. This is important, and it could change your life, so listen up:
You “deserve” anything you give so much as a passing thought to — and even stuff you may not have thought of at all.
If you want that new television, go ahead and buy it even if [...]

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Rant Part 1: YES – If You’re Fat, You Need to Lose Weight

August 5, 2009

No wonder Americans are so fat: Popular culture and advertising keep telling us day in and day out that we don’t need to take responsibility for any of our actions and we’re fine just the way we are, and people are believing this crap.
Example: More to Love, FOX Broadcasting Company, Tuesdays at 9ET/8CT
The official description [...]

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Tomorrows and Yesterdays

July 31, 2009

Last night I watched Gone With the Wind for what I later realized was the first time in at least six and a half years. I discerned this fact while trying to analyze why I bawled through virtually the whole thing. For a movie I’ve seen at least a dozen times, that struck me as [...]

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An Open Letter to the Rude Teenage Boy at the Kings Dominion Wave Pool on Being a Real Man

July 29, 2009

Dear Rude Boy:
If you hadn’t crashed into my sister-in-law and me multiple times in the wave pool this weekend, I wouldn’t have said anything. I know what it’s like to splash around and have fun with your friends, and sometimes you get distracted and bump into someone. I get that. But when you do it [...]

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The Best Advice I’ve Ever Received — Insight for Marriage, Friendship, Business, and Daily Interaction With Strangers

July 23, 2009

I’ve been on a self-improvement kick of late and have been taking a hard look at myself and my life. Something that keeps coming back to me are excellent pieces of advice I’ve received over the years.

“Just because someone has a lesson to learn doesn’t mean you have to teach it to him.”
“Do what needs [...]

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Are You the Kind of Spouse You’d Like to Be Married To?

July 23, 2009

Love is not a feeling you have, but the conscious choices you make actions you take every day regardless of how you feel. Our fifth anniversary is just around the corner, and I just realized I have not been loving my husband. Now what?

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