by Kristen King on July 23, 2009
My fifth anniversary is coming up in September, and I’ve been asking myself this question for the last few months: Would I like to be married to me? I’m ashamed to say that, with the exception of approximately the last six or eight weeks, the answer has been no.
I don’t mean to suggest that I’m downright evil, negligent, intentionally cruel, or unfaithful. Those things aren’t me. But unfortunately what I am or, what I hope I can say with a fair level of honesty, what I have been is extremely selfish and immature. Throughout our marriage, I have put myself first instead of my husband in my decision making and attitudes. I’m still married, so largely this has worked out okay, but it is decidedly not the way to be a good wife to your husband, and it certainly doesn’t endear you to him.
One way to look at it is that I lucked out in marrying a guy who loves me and is forgiving of my stupidity. And, my friends, I have indeed been stupid. Unfortunately, the other way to look at it is that my husband wasn’t quite so lucky. Here’s one example: I fight dirty. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have any clue where I picked up that habit, but I’m not going to name names. I will, however, tell you what I’ve been doing. Instead of pursuing making peace when there’s a disagreement, I’ve been pursuing being right. And one of the easiest ways to be right is to make the other person wrong. [click to continue…]
by Kristen King on March 2, 2009
(www.sass-pants.com) — Less than 3 months after the porn industry requested a $5B bailout, things are looking bad for them, in large part because of the proliferation of free porn sources online. “Tube sites” including our good friend YouTube are providing enough alternative adult entertainment that folks aren’t interested in paying for pay-per-view or subscription services.
Gee, ya think?
Vivid Entertainment founder Steven Hirsch, a longtime porn heavyweight who sued one of the free porn sites for illegally using his company’s material, say the Los Angeles company’s DVD sales have dropped 30 percent in the past year, and the free porn sites are adding economic insult to injury.
“Between the DVD sales, the piracy, the free porn online and the economy,” Hirsch said, “I’ve never seen it this bad in 25 years in the business.”
Compounding the challenge is that the porn industry as a whole has done little navel-gazing – at least of the financial or strategic-planning kind – over the years. While the X-rated industry has always been among the first to adopt new technologies, it has not always embraced long-term forecasting. It hasn’t had to, analysts say, because the forecasts were always so rosy.
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Although I can understand why the porn industry has remained confident (people seem to find money for vices even when they can’t find it for essentials, in my experience), I can’t believe they’re surprised about the recent decline, given the nation’s economic situation. Then again, I guess everyone’s been surprised recently at how bad things have gotten.
What amuses me, though, is the proposed solution to this problem. Niche porn network Kink.com is planning to introduce live shows that allow viewers to interact with the director and actors and actresses. According to SFGate.com, “The idea, said Kink Chief Operating Officer Daniel Riedel – a Yahoo.com veteran – is to offer users an experience that the free tube sites can’t.”
Sorry, Kink, but I’m not feeling it.
How about this suggestion for porn viewers who are now strapped for cash: Instead of shelling out your hard-won dollars on a so-called interactive, live experience, take the time you’d be spending watching porn and use it to develop a happy, healthy, real-life relationship that will ultimately lead to fulfilling, satisfying, FREE sex for the rest of your life. It’s called marriage. Try it.
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