Business Coach

As I write this post, there are 64 emails sitting in my work inbox, of which nine are unread. I’m sure some of you are laughing right now: “Sixty-four emails? Honey, I’ve got over 2,000. Cry me a river.”

Don’t hate. It’s been a slow day.

And I ditched over a hundred of them before sitting down to write this post.

Anyway, here’s the approximate make-up of my inbox:

  • Messages that shouldn’t have even come to me
  • Stuff I was CC’d on for reasons I still don’t comprehend, because they have nothing to do with me or are an FYI that is kind of relevant but I really didn’t need; most of these are Reply-Alls
  • Emails for one of two Kristins in my company, neither of whom is this KristEn because like a cyclops I have only one I (get it?); most of these are also Reply-Alls.
  • Random questions that should have been a Google search not an email
  • Messages that should be on a to-do list not in my inbox
  • Questions or requests that need my attention but I haven’t gotten to them yet, so they’re sitting in my inbox because I don’t want to forget about them. (Yes, I know this is bad. I’m working on it.)
  • Things I need to review (e.g., drafts I need to sign off on, summaries of decisions that affect my projects, etc.) but haven’t gotten to yet
  • Stuff I don’t want to forget but haven’t figured out where to put so I don’t lose it
  • Stuff I haven’t opened yet so who knows

Usually I also have several event reminders and social media digests, but I’ve cleaned those out already. And I’ve got 212 unread messages sitting in my “Interesting but Non-Urgent” folder, which is where I send all of my newsletter subscriptions using filters.

This isn’t horrible, but it’s not great. It feels like the Sword of Damocles is hanging over me every time I sit in front of my computer.

I have all these fantasies and big plans for living at Inbox Zero, but I find myself barely hanging on all the time at Inbox Trying-Not-to-Cry.

And seriously everyone hates email. I don’t know one person who loves it. I love the idea of email, but actual email is slowly sapping my will to live. Why is it so painful? And what can we do about it?

I keep staring at solutions like SaneBox — mostly because Facebook somehow knows that I hate email just like it knows I love workout tanks that say things like “I Run Because Punching People is Frowned Upon” and “Burpees Don’t Like You Either” and constantly puts the ads in front of me — and wondering: Is it really possible to stop hating email? Can we really tame the beast and bring it back to its original pure beginnings when it was useful instead of crushing?

There have been a lot of articles written about how to make email less awful and how to do it better, so I’m not going to repeat the same suggestions we’ve all heard a million times. (If you want some advice, though, I suggest you go here and here and here.)

But I have a question:

If we KNOW Reply-All is the devil and we KNOW we need to write descriptive subject lines and we K-N-O-W we should have a useful signature on every email including replies, why do we keep doing things that make email worse instead of better?

Why do reasonably intelligent individuals fly in the face of common sense and insist on doing the very things that drive them nuts about email?

We’ve made the first step in admitting that we struggle with email. But perhaps the real first step is admitting email isn’t the problem; how we use email is the problem. And it’s not going to change unless we change.

What are your biggest email pet peeves? And what do you think would motivate people to change those behaviors in your organization? Leave a comment.

This post originally appeared on GovLoop.com.